“True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience.” ― Oprah Winfrey I can’t say I’m an Oprah Winfrey fan. However, I do think that the statement she makes about forgiveness is as psycho-emotionally accurate as anything I or any other treatment provider can say. There’s very few who could argue with… Continue reading If an addict hurts you, forgive — every time…
The reality is that there is no such thing as an “addictive personality.” This idea emerges a lot when someone seemingly “transfers” one addiction for another. For example, I know a man who struggled with a 20-year addiction to alcohol, gave it up, but then became addicted to gambling. Many pop psychologists would say that… Continue reading There’s no such thing as an addictive personality!!!
I believe with all that I am that humanity seeks to be creative. But, I do want clarify a point that is often misunderstood. While creativity is a basic human need in my opinion, in order for it to be effective within a “healthy growth” program, it must be approached consciously. The idea behind “conscious… Continue reading 2 things about addicts that can make conscious creativity useful
My book, 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction, has just been awarded the 2016 NM-AZ Book Award for Self-Help book of the year! While winning an award for my writing has been a dream since I was twelve, the fact that it won shows without a doubt that my book is a great weapon… Continue reading An award-winning book you NEED to read!
For years, I’ve seen the dark side of humanity lead good people into intense suffering. I’ve seen fathers belittle their sons for wanting a life without heroin. I’ve witnessed young men die alone because their drug use isolated them into unrecognizable versions of themselves that no one loved anymore. I’ve heard stories of women being… Continue reading We need to integrate natural realities with supernatural realities to be fully human
I heard myself explaining that my book, 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction, is a great resource if people would only out the work into that it demands. Then it occurred to me: Really, people want change, they just don’t want to do the work to make the change happen. I’ve worked several cases… Continue reading If you don’t work it, it won’t work!
When I hit high speeds, it’s like all of my sense blend together into one point of single-focus. Me and the bike become one machine, aligned for the sole purpose of control among potential chaos. There’s nothing to protect me, if I lose control, I could get hurt. Regardless of the risk, the reward of… Continue reading Good and strong beats darkness every time
People often wonder when the addicts in their life “really mean it” when they say they’re ready to change. All too often, addicts have a tendency to pull the proverbial rug out from under their loved ones through promises to change that are seldom kept. I do believe, however, that all people are capable of… Continue reading 3 Indicators of Recovery Readiness
I’m going to be on a Santa Fe radio station on Tuesday the 5th. The host will ask me a bunch of questions regarding my book, 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction, and I will provide him with answers. The main question, if I’m predicting correctly, will be: Why should people bother with your… Continue reading NO magic bullets to fight addiction
Ok, so I have the book that I’ve always wanted to promote ready for the streets. The promotion begins. To prepare, I always start with a “curriculum” of what it is I want to discuss during readings, presentations, and workshop associated with whatever book I’m promoting. Once I have the curriculum done, I contact various… Continue reading 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction is READY FOR PRIME TIME!