It’s quite a feeling to realize that I’m both insignificant, yet a part of something much bigger. Standing on a hilltop and watching a sunset turn a whole valley fire-orange brought me a sense of peace. My goal in climbing the hill was to capture something, although I wasn’t sure for what it was I… Continue reading Sometimes, we all need a change in perspective…
The reality is that there is no such thing as an “addictive personality.” This idea emerges a lot when someone seemingly “transfers” one addiction for another. For example, I know a man who struggled with a 20-year addiction to alcohol, gave it up, but then became addicted to gambling. Many pop psychologists would say that… Continue reading There’s no such thing as an addictive personality!!!
I’m pretty sure the universe is telling me something. Actually, for years, it’s been saying the same thing over and over again: Set the mind in order to be successful. But, how does someone “set their mind?” it’s a basic question, and the truth is, there’s no one right answer that works for everyone. But… Continue reading 3 Insights that can make a program successful
I think the main problem I encounter with people “helping” someone with an Addiction is that they are totally and completely unaware of the fact that engaging an addiction amounts to entering into emotional and spiritual warfare. Sure, there is the psychology of addiction, and the psychology of recovery that need accounting. And while understanding… Continue reading Why helping addicts amounts to emotional warfare
There are many different approaches to the creative process that access many different means of inspiration. These varied approaches often are seen as almost maniacal. For example, many artists have been seen as crazy, as was Vincent Van Gogh; or had substance abuse issues, such as Ernest Hemingway. To me, the reason that their processes… Continue reading A Balanced Perspective may aid in Treating Depression
For years, I’ve seen the dark side of humanity lead good people into intense suffering. I’ve seen fathers belittle their sons for wanting a life without heroin. I’ve witnessed young men die alone because their drug use isolated them into unrecognizable versions of themselves that no one loved anymore. I’ve heard stories of women being… Continue reading We need to integrate natural realities with supernatural realities to be fully human
I was talking with a colleague the other day about a proposal we were working on. There were challenges with what we were suggesting and I, as usual, was nitpicking about the details and issues our direction may cause. He shook his head and said, “Look, these are problems of opportunity. We are in a… Continue reading 2 types of problems and how each works
“Well,” she said over a cup of coffee. “She’s just in denial about him.” When someone uses a buzzword, I tend to stop listening. People say someone’s “in denial” all too frequently, especially when it comes to any kind of sickness. The woman who said it was referring to a woman who doesn’t seem to… Continue reading Why we should stop saying people are “in denial”
In my years of working and living with addicts, I have learned, all too well, that there is no “one size fits all” way to deal with and “help” addicts. I’ve found that there are very different ways and means to recovery; also, I have found that there are many different types of addicts. While… Continue reading The 3 types of addicts and what you need to know about each
I heard myself explaining that my book, 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction, is a great resource if people would only out the work into that it demands. Then it occurred to me: Really, people want change, they just don’t want to do the work to make the change happen. I’ve worked several cases… Continue reading If you don’t work it, it won’t work!