The reality is that there is no such thing as an “addictive personality.” This idea emerges a lot when someone seemingly “transfers” one addiction for another. For example, I know a man who struggled with a 20-year addiction to alcohol, gave it up, but then became addicted to gambling. Many pop psychologists would say that… Continue reading There’s no such thing as an addictive personality!!!
As both a parent and an Addiction Treatment provider, I totally understand how hard people blame their kids’ addiction on themselves. When our kids go down unhealthy paths, it’s really easy to convince ourselves that it’s our fault and that we’ve failed as parents when our kids become addicted to drugs and alcohol. But the… Continue reading Are parents to blame for their kid’s addiction?
I wish I could say that I met him while I was deep in the woods. I’d say that I was wandering along a trail and that I met up with him while he was washing what clothes he had in the river. In my wishful thought, he enlightened me, as great teachers do, and… Continue reading Addiction results from a consciousness of scarcity
My book, 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction, has just been awarded the 2016 NM-AZ Book Award for Self-Help book of the year! While winning an award for my writing has been a dream since I was twelve, the fact that it won shows without a doubt that my book is a great weapon… Continue reading An award-winning book you NEED to read!
People often wonder when the addicts in their life “really mean it” when they say they’re ready to change. All too often, addicts have a tendency to pull the proverbial rug out from under their loved ones through promises to change that are seldom kept. I do believe, however, that all people are capable of… Continue reading 3 Indicators of Recovery Readiness
I’m taking a page out of the opensource community and am now offering Introduction to Addiction and Recovery fully online! Simply click on this link, register for the site, confirm your registration, and then enroll yourself in the course! There is NO COST and upon successful passing of the “Final Quiz,” I will issue you… Continue reading Online Intro to Addiction and Recovery course is NOW AVAILABLE for 6 CEUs!!
We can’t fix anyone else — this is true. However, we can allow change in others to emerge IF we take the necessary steps to: first, understand our own behavior; and second,hange our own behaviors. Especially if we want an addict in our life to change, we really need to understand and recognize our actions… Continue reading Changing our own actions CAN LEAD to change in an addict
In my opinion, we are at a point where how we treat Addiction MUST change. We can no longer pursue means of treating Addiction that reinforce the Addiction identity. What is the Addiction Identity? To me, it’s any personality trait and/or behavior that continues to allow a person to relate with himself or herself as… Continue reading We can ALL do our part in destroying the Addiction Identity
Dear Enabler, Look, I know your intentions are good. I KNOW that you think all of your “helping” is leading someone back to you from the abyss in which they swim. I get that your rescuing comes from the absolute deepest place of love that humanity offers. But, I also know that it’s fear and… Continue reading An open letter to an addict’s enabler