“True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience.” ― Oprah Winfrey I can’t say I’m an Oprah Winfrey fan. However, I do think that the statement she makes about forgiveness is as psycho-emotionally accurate as anything I or any other treatment provider can say. There’s very few who could argue with… Continue reading If an addict hurts you, forgive — every time…
If there’s one thing I’ve studied consistently over the years, it’s leadership. I’ve been able to lead people towards their goals pretty much all of my life. Not only have I been successful as a leader professionally, but I’ve also formally studied the concepts behind leadership psychology and if there’s one thing of which I’m… Continue reading Addiction Treatment providers should clients as people, not as stomachs…
The reality is that there is no such thing as an “addictive personality.” This idea emerges a lot when someone seemingly “transfers” one addiction for another. For example, I know a man who struggled with a 20-year addiction to alcohol, gave it up, but then became addicted to gambling. Many pop psychologists would say that… Continue reading There’s no such thing as an addictive personality!!!
One of the many things I teach is something I call, Social System Homeostasis, and it is composed of: Stable Social Systems (SSS) = Occur when an individual’s mental constructs are in harmony with others’ perceived views of the individual. A person is in a social system that is homeostatic when all his roles and… Continue reading An addict’s social systems must de-stabilize in order to find Recovery
When I started up the last hill, a sense of relief came over me like a blanket on a cold night. Eleven minutes and one mile earlier, I was afraid of continuing; the trail was slick from recent rains and I had no idea how far I’d have to run to reach the summit Viewpoint.… Continue reading Fear is not a fact: A run to the Summit Viewpoint
People often wonder when the addicts in their life “really mean it” when they say they’re ready to change. All too often, addicts have a tendency to pull the proverbial rug out from under their loved ones through promises to change that are seldom kept. I do believe, however, that all people are capable of… Continue reading 3 Indicators of Recovery Readiness
I’ve often heard myself repeating the same messages about Recovery again and again. That’s probably due to the fact that whenever I meet with a family or a new client, I take the same approach. First, I educate about the mechanics of Addiction and discuss its “grey” nature; that is, Addiction is not an “either/or”… Continue reading Why I wrote a book about Addiction Treatment
On Thursday, August 4th, 6:30 PM at Page 1 Bookstore in Albuquerque NM; I will be discussing Recovery and what it really is. While I will be reading from my book, 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction, I will primarily be focusing on the mechanics of Recovery and why it’s less about the drugs… Continue reading Author Juan Blea to discuss the ins and out of Recovery and offer FREE CEUs
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been wrestling with meaningless deadlines. Again, if there is an actual dependency associated with a deadline, or if the consequences of missing a deadline are enforced, then I think deadlines are quite useful and necessary. However, if the deadline doesn’t have any reality associated with it, then they are… Continue reading Why giving ultimatums don’t work with addicts.
Sunflowers rock. I think it’s awesome that when they’re “new” they stretch and re-position themselves to always face the sun; however, when they’re approaching their demise, they no longer do. The myth behind the sunflower is that a nymph named Clytie was in love with the sun god, Apollo. He loved Clytie, but soon turned… Continue reading The meaning and myth of the Sunflower (and why it matters)