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My walk through a decaying park

This morning, I walked through a deserted and decaying park. Hearing the emptiness enveloped me in sadness. I hoped to clear my head and find some perspective regarding recent events in Santa Fe. But no, I didn’t find perspective. The… Continue Reading →

Santa Fe’s Evil Presence is growing

I hate to say it, but evil in Santa Fe has gained a foothold. At the risk of sounding like a weirdo, I believe that evil expresses itself through various real ways. I didn’t always think in this cosmic way;… Continue Reading →

Two things to keep in mind when talking with an addict

Talking with someone struggling with an addiction can be frustrating. Not for the reasons that you might think, but because they’re so mired in shame that almost every thought he or she utters is a projection of that shame. So,… Continue Reading →

An addict is often the family scapegoat

Within any given family, people play certain roles. That is, there’s usually someone filling a “hero” role, someone filling a “good cop” role and, the one I see very often within substance abuse treatment, someone filling a “scapegoat” role. Often,… Continue Reading →

Before you return to self-destructive behaviors, remember it’s just a job.

As a substance abuse counselor, I don’t think it’s to big of a stretch to say that the worst kinds of addicts are those who don’t think that they’re addicts. They’re as self-destructive as anyone in an AA meeting and… Continue Reading →

Two (2) things everyone should know about addicts

Talking with someone struggling with an addiction can be frustrating. Not for the reasons that you might think, but because they’re so mired in self-hate that almost every thought he or she utters is a projection of that self-hate. So,… Continue Reading →

Families of addicts need to wake the F up!

I’ve been providing “pro bono” substance abuse treatment for almost ten (10) years now.  However, I haven’t taken on any cases for one reason and one reason only: Addict’s families simply don’t want to recognize that they are part of… Continue Reading →

2 things to know about addicts

Talking with someone struggling with an addiction can be frustrating. Not for the reasons that you might think, but because they’re so mired in self-hate and shame that almost every thought he or she utters is a projection of those… Continue Reading →

An Open Letter to an Addict’s Enabler

Dear Enabler, Look, I know your intentions are good.  I KNOW that you think all of your “helping” is leading someone back to you from the abyss in which they swim. I get that your rescuing comes from the absolute… Continue Reading →

How to make an Addict Behave

When people ask me questions about the addict in their life, the only thing I hear is, “How can I make my Addict behave in ways I can understand?”  And the response to that question is: Seek to understand your… Continue Reading →

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