Category Recovery
Change is difficult. However, individuals, families, and organizations at one point or another all value and desire behavioral change. In my experience, the desire is often based upon discomfort with a current behavior. However, even though the desire can be… Continue Reading →
The other day, I ran into an old friend who has now been sober for quite a while. He’s enthusiastic about his recovery and tries to help others get into twelve-step programs. He said that he was talking to a… Continue Reading →
The sad reality is that, when it comes to behavioral change, no one can save anyone else. There isn’t a big genie riding a cumulus who’s going to wave their magic wand and make life better for anyone. Yet, 12-step… Continue Reading →
I’ve spent hours watching spiders spin webs, wait, and then blast anything that lands in those webs with a shot of venom. Maybe I need some hobbies, but spider watching is among the most beautiful sights in nature to me. … Continue Reading →
Dear Enabler, Look, I know your intentions are good. I KNOW that you think all of your “helping” is leading someone back to you from the abyss in which they swim. I get that your rescuing comes from the absolute… Continue Reading →
Talking with someone struggling with an addiction can be frustrating. Not for the reasons that you might think, but because they’re so mired in self-hate that almost every thought he or she utters is a projection of that self-hate. So,… Continue Reading →
There is an Aesop’s fable that is so resonant and relevant to recovery that I am compelled to share it and describe its significance. Now, people are always wondering how they know their loved one is ready change. I’ve said… Continue Reading →
I challenge everyone: The next time you hear about someone suffering (or dying) due to Addiction or to Depression, try to see them as someone stricken with a terminal illness, not as someone who is weak or a failure, or… Continue Reading →
I’m going to be on a Santa Fe radio station on Tuesday the 5th. The host will ask me a bunch of questions regarding my book, 49 Tips and Insights for Understanding Addiction, and I will provide him with answers. … Continue Reading →
Fighting substance abuse isn’t easy; many people have opinions towards substances and addicts, but few offer any real solutions. One thing that I really don’t think helps is solely looking at substances. While I do think that we have to… Continue Reading →
